That sucks to high heaven. I was playing at absolute yesterday, got AA with about $300 in front of me (200 buyin table) and raised it up to 4 bucks preflop, opponent made it 8 to go. He only had about $40 left so I decide to just put him in, he says "oh what the hell" and calls... with 88

. Of course the 8 hits the flop

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My advice Rhound is to do what I've done. Party/Empire have great cashiers and get the money in and out very rapidly. Just clear your account TOTALLY so even if the games look good you're not tempted to jump back in, and wait until there's one of the (very generous) deposit bonuses available there. From now on, I'm only going to be playing at these damn sites when they're giving me something for nothing, and to be honest I'm staying away from NL here for the time being because exactly the problem you detailed above has me tearing my hair out!
Its a bit of a comedown for me, given that I have played up to $400 buyins at PLO and $200 at holdem, to be playing $25 NL or PLO8 at party/empire, but I find it's a quick and effective way to clear the bonus and the suckouts dont have me wanting to punch a hole in the wall quite as much as they did in the days when I used to play the biggest games they had on offer. I'm thinking I'll play 2/4 or 3/6 O8 to clear this latest Party bonus offer, perhaps on the shorthanded tables, because I don't really ever lose very much at limit O8 so there's very little downside for me, even though I have more profitable games. I'll stick with the bigger games at Stars, where I'm doing great, and maybe now GCP.
Hope this helps anyway, from another who's had a multitude of problems winning at this site. It's kind of hard to adjust your game when it seems like they're destined to hit that 5 outer every time

lol...
Monk
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